"If your drink isn't perfect, just bring it back and we'll make it right," smiled the baristo at a local Starbucks. I smiled back and said, "perfect, eh?" to which she just smiled. That got me thinking about expectations in relationships, especially marriage. We go into marriage with high ideals and unrealistic expectations about how the other person will be "perfect" for us. Well . . . if not perfect, at least close. And . . . if not close, we'll "take 'em back" and make it right. In other words, we'll try and change them. I do remember one time when I did take my coffee back to Starbucks because it was lukewarm. I don't like lukewarm coffee. It's disgusting to me. If you are in a marriage for any length of time you are bound to "get a cup" of joe once in a while (cirumcumstane or a period of time) that is lukewarm. In other words, while your relationship started off as hot as glowing coal embers, there's a time when the flame dies or at least diminishes. That's life, it happens. When it does, know that "this too will pass" and another cup of joe is being brewed just like you like it! The key is to hang in there, love and respect, and that coffee will be as hot and fresh as you can imagine. Maybe not quite "perfect", but great stuff!